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Six Rules to Make People Like You 

Dale Carnegie

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

People will begin to like you as a person and friend if you are genuinely interested in other people, when others begin to see that you have a care for them and the things that they like and enjoy they will begin to like you. Showing a care or feeling towards someone's interest shows a lot it shows that you are not selfish or self centered. Most times people will only care about themselves and no one else, others will see this and think bad of them and they will think that those type of people are undependable and rude most times. People who enjoy being there for others will come off as great people and people that can be depended on, this will reflect not only to your friends but your friends friend's. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ― John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love
Rule 2: Smile

This is important for many people and that is smiling. Yes, it may seem silly and too simple but a simple smile can have a huge effect on your character and other people around you. Smiling shows people a positive and welcoming attitude that they will like, smiling can cheer up other people when they're down. Your happiness and caring for other people's happiness is important and smiling being lots of joy and excitement into your life and others.Smiling can do a lot like boost self esteem and even your immune system, smiling can relieve stress, but most importantly smiling is CONTAGIOUS! "Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you'll start to see a big difference in your life." Yoko Ono 

Rule 3: Remember names

Remembering someone's name may seem like it is also silly but in fact it is important because it shows that you care and that you listen and pay attention to things. It benefits you more remembering names because then it means you'll never confuse or mistake people because a real friend will know you for the little things such as just knowing your name. You would never want to catch yourself in a situation where you cannot remember that one person's name and mistake them because then you will look like a goof and in the eyes of that person you will look like a bad friend because you didn't take the time to genuinely listen to something as small as their name. So yes in order to have people like you it is important to remember names. You wouldn't someone to not know your name, and you wouldn't like it if that person was saying the good qualities about you but when asked who; they cant remember your name. "Names have power.” Rick Riordan 


Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
It is important to be good listener towards others, showing others that you are attentive and listening to what they're saying shows them that you have an interest in what they are saying. It shows that you care about what they are talking about and then you are able to have a conversation with them. Having good listening skills can also be a skill that you can use in the real world in your work field or career. It is also important to encourage others to talk about themselves because it shows that you are not selfish about yourself and that you again care about others and their thoughts, ideas, and feelings. Become the person everyone likes and enjoys to be around, with attributes such as these you can make a difference in your life and the ones around you. "Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present, and that takes practice, but we don't have to do anything else. We don't have to advise, or coach, or sound wise. We just have to be willing to sit there and listen," Margaret J. Wheatley. 

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

When you talk about what someone else likes they think you have a common thing in like which makes them more likely to be friends. when they hear what they want to hear they will be more willing to listen to someone else and eventually become friends with them. Even though these types of relationships are rather difficult in all the main goal is finding the interest. Many people are different so when you have something in common you can see a possible future as friends. If that interest is a passion both have its a rather deeper connection you can learn more about that person through that passion. A quote i enjoy that ties the aspects I have come to show is ," The road to a mans heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures the most". In fact this is very true when you can talk to someone else about what you love the most and they wont get bored you will want to talk to them more.  

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.

When you appreciate another person for anything that he or she has done or said, they will like themselves and you more as well. The simplest way to express appreciation is to simply say, “Thank you” for an idea, some good feedback, time spent together, or an order.When you treat a person with courtesy and respect, they will value and respect you more. By being concerned, you connect with their emotions. Consideration is the discipline to do and say things to people that are important to them.f you want to be a leader, you need to inspire follower ship. Great leaders develop a good relationship with good people, who are then inspired to follow. A successful leader inspires people to do more than they might have done without the relationship, and more than they may have even dreamed possible. "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

Reflection: I don't think that these 6 rules on how to make people like you apply to everyone, but they are a good help for many, they do demonstrate great ways to make people like you and for you to better yourself as a human being.